Friday, July 31, 2015

The Day I Died...The Day I live

My godmother, Debbie Jenkins, is a woman of few words in many cases. So, when she speaks, I listen, because there is something that must be heard. I have seen this woman live when people said she would not. I have seen her and her husband overcome numerous battles in the many years that I have known them. Miracles are nothing new to them, as the two of them are walking embodiments of miracles themselves. Now, she is also a woman who needs no introduction, but I just want to say that this blog post is copied by me, from her own words. A testimony that she has, and that will forever be in my mind, in my memory. I will never forget the day I got the phone call, where I was, what I was doing. When I answered my phone, sitting at the drive through window of Dairy Queen in Metropolis, my world turned upside down and back again multiple times with the words that were spoken from the other end of the line… “Becca…Debbie died today…”

And now, the story written by Debbie herself.

I would like to share with you how God blessed me on July 30, 2010, during my battle with Ovarian Cancer. This was the day I was to go in for chemo-therapy. We knew that typically I would be okay for a few hours following the treatment, but that I would be quite sick for the next few weeks. This was normal for the type of treatments that I was receiving. We arrived a few minutes early and the nurse connected the lines to my port. As I was about to finish the first drug administration I told the nurse I needed to use the restroom. She asked if I could wait until she started the next drug. I said I could, and she began the next drug treatment. After she got it going I went right into the restroom.

All at once I felt a fiery sensation going down both legs, and this was extremely painful. Just as quickly, I felt that same fire going to my head. I knew then that I was in trouble, so I opened the door and yelled for the nurse. When she got to the door and saw the state I was in, she yelled, “Oh, my God! Deb!” She then yelled for her helper…and this is the last thing I remember of that event. In the next instant I saw the most BEAUTIFUL bright light!!

Words cannot describe the beauty of this light! I felt the most wonderful peace, like the peace that surpasses all understand, spoken of in the Bible! I was in the presence of God! I know that the light was the Glory of God, and the peace that I felt was from Him also. I could feel myself drawing closer to that light, that comforting, warm light. Breaking into that moment, suddenly, I heard a voice calling my name, “Deb! Deb!” In my heart I knew this was Clayton, my husband, and he was hurting, deeply. Then, I heard another voice saying to me, It is okay. You can go back now. I still have work for you and your husband to do.”

At that moment I heard voices. “I have no response! I still have no response!” I felt pressure on my chest, like an elephant siting on me. I took my hand, and moved the object that was causing the pressure off of my chest. A voice then said, “I have a response! I have a response!” The medical team began working on me, hooking up the life support machines, attaching the tubes and devices that would breathe for me for a time. All I could think about while they were working to keep me alive was my husband. I needed to see him! I needed to know he was okay, and I wanted to ask him if he was sitting beside me, calling out my name. This was not to happen…yet.

The next thing I recall is being in a room, hooked up to these machines, with something in my mouth, preventing my ability to speak to anyone. My husband was standing there, looking so sad and lost. It was that look in his eyes that I will never forget, because it was that look that I could hear when I heard my name called out. I was on life support for three days. When they took me off life support, my husband was right there, as he never left my side. My first words to him were the words I had been needing so badly to ask. “Honey, were you standing right by me, calling out my name?” He looked at me. “No.” He said. “They had put me and everyone else out into the hallway. They called a code blue, and it took several minutes for everyone to get in there to get things moved around to work on you. The medical team came out and told me you were dead. They asked me what I wanted them to do. I told them to do all that they could. So the nurse went back in, and in my heart I began to call your name, ‘Deb. Deb!’ and then I prayed for you.” I looked at my husband, into his eyes, and I said, “I heard you. The Lord allowed me to hear you crying out my name, and I could feel your pain. The Lord then told me that I could come back because He still had work for you and I to do.”

While I was still in the hospital, the man who performed CPR on me came to visit me. He said that he could not believe he was standing and talking, and laughing with me. He said that he has been in this profession for 25 years, and that the other patients who were gone as long as I was could not talk or function because they had irreparable brain damage, or were deceased.

Later, my chemo-therapy nurse visited me and shared her side of the event of that day. She came into the bathroom when I called to her, and immediately saw that I was in bad shape. She sat me down and called for help. Then she said that I had stopped breathing, so she began working on me to get me breathing again. Soon they called the code blue, because I was gone. She informed me that I had died twice while they were with me in that restroom. The second time I died, they noted the time and went out of the room to find Clayton and let him know that I was gone. After talking with my husband, the nurse came back into the room. She said that when she got back in there, suddenly my hand came up and took the hand of the man performing CPR on me, and as I emphatically declared, “Now that will be enough of that!” I threw his hand off of me. At that moment, the moment the silence was broken, everyone began to laugh. They told me that I had been dead, declared dead, for 15 minutes.

I was dead. They had to inform my husband. When informed, my husband began to pray to God for me. When the nurse told me I had died, and that they had to tell him, and he prayed, this is what I felt, and what I know…The Scriptures say “The effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much” (James 5:16). This came to me as she was telling me her account of that day. I thank God every day for my husband, and for each new day that I am here to live, and share my testimony!!! I will tell my story to ALL who will listen. While you are able, you must make the decision about where you want to spend eternity, because you never know when you will draw your last breath. When you take that last breath, you will not be able to change your mind! You will either spend your time in the light with God, or in the darkness. I pray that you will choose an eternity with God. I am telling you, I know there is a God who cares for you. Just reach out to Him. I hope to see YOU in Heaven!


Debbie Jenkins

Saturday, July 25, 2015

It's Going to be Okay


Psst. Hey you. Yeah, I’m talking to you. To the person who is sitting quietly, right now, contemplating life and how in the world you got to the point you are at this very moment. The road has been a long one. Everything and everyone is grating on whatever nerves you feel you may have left. Money, job, school, kids, and daily life stresses you out before you even sit up in your bed first thing in the morning. Your house is a mess, your car is a mess, and you honestly couldn’t tell someone when you remember actually eating your last full meal. You are tired. Sleep is the only thing that sounds half-way decent to you right now. I know. I get ya. But I want to be the one to tell you the one thing you find hard to believe right now: it’s going to be okay.

I know! I know, it sounds cliché, and you just rolled your eyes at me. I have no idea what you are going through right now. While that may be true, I do understand the emotions that you are experiencing. Why? How? Well, because I am feeling them too. And with that, let me share a little something with you…

People struggle. This is not news. We all have problems that we share with others, and we all have problems that we keep to ourselves, suffering in silence and solitude with whatever reasons we may have for not disclosing our battles. Big or small, battles bring a person to their knees. Many people question their ability to continue on, and some just don’t bother trying…and end their own lives. Everyone handles stress, pain, grief, and of these other strong emotions differently. But to those who feel alone, rest assured we have ALL been there at least once in our lives. SOMETHING has affected every adult on this planet (and many children), putting them in a warzone of their own, testing their strengths and exposing their weaknesses. Nobody truly knows what other people are going through, and oftentimes people who live together in the same home have no clue what the other may be struggling with internally.

Whatever it is that you are going through right now, be it health; money; family; job; school; or even just some hormonal imbalance putting you into a depressed state, the struggle truly is real. And, as real as it is the struggle is hard. I know, because I, too, am struggling.

So, here we are, you and I, suffering alone…silently…whether it is because we choose not to share our pain or because we tried and nobody cared to truly hear us. The tears that are shed daily, the strange sensation inside that scares us because it is not pain anymore, but the terrible reality that we don’t feel the pain like before. Numbness is setting in. The ability to feel, along with the desire to care, is vanishing and we are powerless to stop it.


Now, for those of you who may not know what this feels like, I can assure you that you know someone who does. All around us are people who suffer from depression in one form or another. It is a scary place to be. There is no certainty in life when depression is present. There are only questions, and many of them are not good ones. Many times the depressed want someone to understand, but they will not be the ones to make a move to be around people. No, their conscious mind doesn’t want to be around other humans, and they will avoid as much as possible. Most of them have to function in a normal, daily routine, however, and will be around other people. My challenge to you is to Be There for them. Start a conversation, simple as it may be. Listen to them when they talk. Don’t respond with “I don’t know what to say”, “I wish I could help”, or anything like that. Even if you don’t have a solution, help them find one in your conversations. This is when we tell each other that it’s going to be okay…and mean it.



You will be okay. Even if everything is not okay right now. There may not seem to be an end to the dark days you are in, and every moment weighs heavy on the heart and mind, but relief will come! Even though even an hour seems like an eternity, and days and weeks are even longer, you can hold on and make it through. And when you do, I will be at the end of that road waiting to embrace you and tell you that you did it… just like me.